Ringatitis

Yours sincerely tied the knot only recently and I tell u it’s a wonderful experience, even though the series of events leading up to the D-day were not one I would want to live through again. We were met with challenges and more challenges, from venue issues 3 weeks to our date , to our caterer delivering food to the venue a week before our proposed date but thank God the day came and was a success even more than  Kay & I expected. I think we do have a terrible wedding culture in Nigeria, the pomp and pageantry that are usually associated with our weddings are uncalled for (I know some people will want to crucify me but na dem sabi). Two young people with the intention of starting a new life together are plagued with the multifarious encumbrances that comes with a Nigerian wedding most times depleting their purse to  nought. I tell every intending bride/groom that cares to listen ;just do your best and leave the rest

Thee wedding ring is meant to be a symbol of love, but right now its about my biggest headache, how am I supposed to carry that weight on my finger round the clock? How am I meant to go about my daily chores like I used to with one finger less(at least that’s how I see it) It’s so so uncomfortable, I envy the women folk, they do it effortlessly and  with grace. But as for me as soon as am indoors, off with the ring. Recently I invoked Kay's wrath when I left home without the ring. You should have seen her fuming... It was a cute sight.lol. She made us go back to get the ring just when I thought I was home free. I always thought I was the only one with the predicament until my neighbor who also recently got hitched told me that I  have a kin in him and shared his own experiences, another friend of mine was jubilating because something went wrong with his ring and his wife had to send it back to the point of purchase in UK. His joy was that it would take at least 4 weeks for it to be fixed so for that 4 weeks he was RING FREE. Then I realized that 'ringatitis' (as I have come to dub it) may be common amongst newly married men.

I do not have a quarrel with the ring because I want to do funny business with the womenfolk, Far from it, if for anything I wear it with a sense of pride that i have crossed that hurdle  also  I get a lot of stares because people tend to wonder how come this 'boy' is married(am sure I have mentioned before that i look a lot younger than my age). I only wish that wearing the ring was like wearing my wrist watch. I hope as time goes on the effect of ringatitis would wear out. But until then Oh dear wives of ours, if we don’t wear our rings all the time, its not because we love you less, its because as with many other things in marriage...It is a gradual process.